In this chapter, you’ll identify some of the common roadblocks to behavioral change and and what is required to overcome them.
In this chapter, you’ll identify some of the common roadblocks to behavioral change and and what is required to overcome them.
“I am so glad to see that you’ve chosen to commit yourself to this process. I know you’re eager, so I’ll just dive right in. As we begin this chapter, I want you to be thinking about the last time you actually made a positive change in your own life. When it comes to adult behavioral change, we have to face two indisputable truths. Truth number one: meaningful behavioral change is very, very difficult to accomplish. Hey, look at my life. I work with a lot of the greatest leaders in the whole world. They’re smart, they’re dedicated, they want to get better, and they’ll all tell you that the stuff I help them with is really easy to understand and it’s hard to do. Let me show you. Take a moment to reflect and answer the next few questions. When you’re finished, just click on the submit button to continue. What is something that you want to change in your own life? How long has this been going on? How’s that been working out for you?
These three questions correspond to three problems that we face in introducing change into our, into our own lives. Number one, we can’t admit that we actually need to change. Number two, we don’t appreciate inertia’s incredible power over us. And number three, we don’t know how to implement a change. Truth number two, no one can make us change unless we truly want to change. When we look at behavioral change, it’s not kind of an all or nothing type of situation. We have the privilege of choosing what we do want to change and what we don’t want to change. In my job, I give leaders feedback. They pick the important behavior that they want to change, and they also just as importantly, pick what they do not want to change. Leadership isn’t a popularity contest…”